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own personal desires, and the husband and wife do not combine their incomes from the beginning, that means that one is preparing go one's separate way from the start because neither person is thinking

The text discusses the misconceptions surrounding marriage, highlighting the need for couples to prioritize mutual support and understanding over personal desires. It stresses that marriage entails si

After one gets married, the foundation of one's life lies in sacrifice for each other. If ever we become selfish towards each other, it will be followed by divorce or murder. Sacrifice in marriage i

After marriage, a strong foundation is built on mutual sacrifice. Selfishness can lead to divorce or serious issues. Sacrifice involves caring for each other both physically and mentally, meaning wise

clash with each other, or for them not to clash with their in-laws. No matter what, there is always a chance that this can happen. The major concern is that, if the couple didn’t learn how to regulat

This text explores the importance of emotional regulation in marriages, emphasizing training before marriage to manage disagreements effectively. Couples prepared with self-reliance, the ability to ch

hope that you will find someone else to help you with the many things in life. There are some who get married because they expect that their spouse will treat them favorably in different ways; and at

In a marriage, expectations can lead to disappointment if not grounded in self-dependence. Many marry for beauty or behavior, but these qualities fade. True relationships rely on self-sufficiency and

A person who has the Dhamma for Laypersons (Gharāvās-dhamma) must display four regular habits: 1. Habit of Responsibility – Whatever the task at hand, he must do it to the best of his ability, in t

A person who follows the Dhamma for Laypersons exhibits four habits: responsibility, self-training, endurance, and sacrifice. These traits ensure self-reliance and leadership within families. In marri

that warn, "Sweet words are more devastating" or "Sweet beginning, bitter ending" or "Sweet mouth, sour bottom." 4th Level: Beauty of Mind - This is the beauty of the virtue within a person, which can

This text discusses the concept of the 'Beauty of Mind,' emphasizing responsibility through the use of four requisites: clothing, food, shelter, and medicine, alongside daily activities and job respon

3) They must have a life teacher or a good counselor advising them on marriage and relationships. Otherwise, it is possible that they will not be able to maintain a long relationship. 4) They must

เพื่อให้การแต่งงานประสบความสำเร็จ จำเป็นต้องมีผู้แนะนำที่รู้จริงซึ่งมักจะเป็นผู้สูงอายุที่มีคุณธรรม พวกเขาสามารถให้คำปรึกษาในเรื่องการเลือกคู่ การทำหน้าที่ของคู่สมรส และการทำงานในชุมชน นอกจากนี้ คู่สม

Humans also have eyes. We must train our eyes to be like bamboo knots, because the most important aspect of eyesight is, “Don’t look at things you aren’t supposed to see. Don’t look for trouble. Don’t

This text emphasizes the significance of controlling what we see and hear for maintaining a calm and positive mind. By training our eyes not to focus on negativity and avoiding gossip, we can foster a

When some people learn they are being gossiped about, they become so furious that they could kill the person who started the rumor. But if we know how to turn our ears into a wok handles, those words

Gossip can evoke strong emotions, but those who learn to disregard malicious words can achieve a peaceful mind. Compliments should be met with rationality rather than infatuation. The wisdom of our gr

honest with every job they did throughout their lives, they could tell their stories proudly: “Ever since we were young, when we had to get a job, even if it was to empty or to clean the toilets, we

The text emphasizes the importance of working honestly, regardless of the job's status. It advocates for a proud acceptance of all honest work, equating it with a clear conscience and a peaceful mind.

Base on this truth, whether we are content or not, as humans, we must learn to have calm and unwavering minds, not to be frightened of life's uncertainties, and know how to remain alert, like the eart

This content emphasizes the importance of maintaining a calm and unwavering mind amidst life's uncertainties. Drawing from the teachings of the Lord Buddha to Venerable Rahula, it illustrates the need

The Buddha answered this question in one word: benevolence. That is to say mutual benevolence, the practice the Four Universal Forms of Benevolence (Sāngahavatthu), promote happiness in living togethe

The Buddha highlighted benevolence as key to mutual happiness. The Four Universal Forms include: 1. Giving (Dāna) – sharing wealth and support fosters a positive atmosphere. 2. Pleasant Speech (Piyavā

Despite the behavior of one spouse, one should never waver from the Dhamma. Occasionally, the husband may go astray or the wife will resort to frivolous behavior, wasting time and money, leaving the h

This text highlights the importance of adhering to Dhamma even amidst challenges in marriage. It discusses the teachings in Buddhism regarding maintaining a loving family atmosphere. Buddhist insights

Who was Lady Visakha? Visakha, a supreme Upasika [a Buddhist laywoman], was a very important person in Buddhism. She was responsible for the construction of Wat Buppharam, one of many ashrams, a cent

Lady Visakha was a prominent Upasika who played a vital role in Buddhism. She built Wat Buppharam in Savatthi, contributing an extraordinary fortune. She initiated the tradition of offering robes for

When they reached Magadha, which was 112 kilometers from the capital of Kosol, Tanachai asked King Pasantikosol, "The city is small and I have a large number of retinue with me. It will be inconvenien

As Lady Visakha prepares for marriage, her father imparts important lessons on maintaining family dignity and relationships. He advises her to keep family matters private, not to bring external issues

A senior monk once discussed kamma: "The word kamma is a neutral word that does not imply good or bad since kamma means action. An action always carries a consequence. Why do we feel full? It is becau

This text delves into the concept of kamma, explaining it as a neutral term encompassing all forms of action that yield consequences. The author draws parallels between the law of physics and the Law

Being born a human requires not only the combination of the father's sperm and the mother's egg, but also the spiritual conception of the child in the womb. The tiny being can only begin life in the m

Being born requires the combination of sperm and egg alongside spiritual factors. Good parents can influence a child's positive reception in the womb. Preparation should start before pregnancy, focusi

Chinese people understood this well. They even have a fable called "Teaching your Unborn Child" that has been retold continually since ancient times. During the Cheng Meng Season (a Chinese tradition

This story emphasizes the importance of teaching good virtues even before a child is born, illustrated by the actions of two sisters during the Cheng Meng Season. When they find a bag of money, the ol

would continue helping until it is finished. If I gave the money easily to the greedy woman who pretended to be the owner, wouldn’t it be simpler to just keep the money? Once we picked it up, we ha

เนื้อหานี้มีเป้าหมายเพื่อแสดงให้เห็นว่าการสอนเด็กให้เป็นคนดีนั้นควรเริ่มต้นตั้งแต่ในระยะที่อยู่ในครรภ์ของมารดา แม้ว่าเธอจะพึ่งรู้ว่าตั้งครรภ์ หากยังคงดื่มสุราและสูบบุหรี่ หรือทำตามคำชักชวนของสามีให้ทำ

Chapter 7 Raising Children to Be Smart and Virtuous Our world seems to become smaller in terms of its interconnectedness. Changes occurring around the world have immediate effects on us socially and

Chapter 7 emphasizes the importance of parents in raising smart and virtuous children amidst global changes. It highlights that a balance of intelligence and wholesomeness is essential for a child's s